I hated the situation and I hated everyone that I felt put me there. Now I’m happy to say that by going through these techniques, I’ve let it go and I’m thriving in a life that I absolutely love.
I was married for 8 years and it’s been 6 years since my divorce was final. Even after all this time there were some things that prevented me from living my best life.
I was feeling stuck, angry and betrayed. Traditional counseling also kept me stuck in the past and rehashed it which I didn’t want to do because it was painful. I didn’t feel like it was making me progress in any way. Before working with Jason, I was stuck in this negative mental loop replaying the scenarios over and over asking myself, “What could I have done differently?” and “How could I have been better?” which just ended up becoming a negative attack on myself and didn’t change anything.
All the negativity was leaking into other parts of my life too, into my work and friendships and family life. It was negative and nasty and bad. I felt like, “no one understands me or knows what I’ve been through. They don’t know these past hurts that I’m holding onto and I can’t let go of because it really did happen.” I would think, “If this hadn’t happened my life would be so different”
At some point I just gave up and said, “Ok it never existed. I’m going to carry this ball and chain with me and push through my life. No one knows what I’ve been through and it doesn’t matter.”
I had this bitterness, anger and resentment that built up.
But using Jason’s techniques we were able to acknowledge some past events and rapidly get through them! Working with Jason I was able to just lightly pick up the past, touch on it, acknowledge that it happened and really re-frame it and truly let it go once and for all. Some of my experiences that were super traumatic also produced very limiting beliefs which became detrimental to my personal success…I have completely let those go too and I actually laugh at them now.
I can think of scenarios where a word or a past experience would make me physically react and now I just laugh at it because it seems so silly. Not to minimize the emotions but it’s really powerful how I can re-frame those past experiences. I use them as a learning experience and I don’t say those words lightly. I rewrote the story in a positive way so I can go forward and live my best life. Being able to acknowledge it and let it go…truly let it go was so freeing. Life feels fresh! Coming from that negative loop and self talk because of my past, being able to see it in a different way brings some compassion to the situations.